Is It Negative Self Talk, Or Realism?

I've learned to expect people to disappoint me. Disappear. It's not a surprise anymore, but it is upsetting. Especially if I let myself be vulnerable. I don't do that easily anymore. I'm sure it's easier to *ghost* someone, than to have a difficult conversation. But it is much harder on the ghostee, and is a chicken shit way to handle anything. I've learned over and over again now, to expect the worst from people.