Where Do You Draw The Line?

I have been officially divorced for a little over a year, but have been single for a little over 2 years. I gave myself a year off after my separation, to learn as much about myself and how to be alone as possible. I learned to be comfortable being alone, and invested a lot of time in therapy. I'm SO glad I did that hard work of unraveling the ways I was co-dependent, and understanding my contributions to the demise of my marriage. Once I began dating, I had to actually learn how to date. I'd met my husband at age 18, I was 22 when we got married, and 38 when we separated. I'd never *really* dated. WOW what a learning curve!!! I went on a couple blind dates, sewed some wild oats, got Catfished at an online dating site, and dated a few different men for short periods of time. I had allowed my ex-husband to knock me down to such a horrendous personal low, that I was always surprised when anyone was interested in me. Therapy helped me with that, and with understanding how to have a healthy relationship. 

If you've never been through a divorce, one of the things you have to do, is attend a parenting class. I took it very seriously and paid close attention to everything that was taught, because I thought there was a lot of value in learning from those that had successfully navigated co-parenting and moving on as a person with a child, who also might date. The biggest takeaway on the dating front for me was "don't introduce your kids to everyone you date." I had already decided that I wouldn't introduce my son to anyone who I knew wouldn't *stick* in our lives in some capacity. I refuse to allow a revolving door of people in his life. And? Someone has to be pretty freaking fantastic to be priveledged enough to meet and spend time with my boy.

Well, that has happened. But I don't know where to draw the line. I want the man I care about very, very much to meet the most important person in my life. I want to share the man I care about with my boy, and I want to share the pure joy that is my son, with one of the most significant men in my life. I think it is enormously important for our children to see us happy and thriving in loving, healthy relationships. How do you know if and when to make those introductions?